What Sort of Story Am I In?
This is a quote I love and that I’m using in my sermon on Genesis 1 this Sunday:
“The same impulse that makes us want our books to have a plot makes us want our lives to have a plot. We need to feel that we are getting somewhere, making progress. There is something in us that is not satisfied with a merely psychological explanation of our lives. It doesn’t do justice to our conviction that we are on some kind of journey or quest, that there must be some deeper meaning to our lives than whether we feel good about ourselves. Only people who have lost the sense of adventure, mystery, and romance worry about their self-esteem. And at that point what they need is not a good therapist, but a good story. Or more precisely, the central question for us should not be, ‘What personality dynamics explain my behavior?’ but rather, ‘What sort of story am I in?’” -William Kilpatrick, Why Johnny Can’t Tell Right From Wrong
“What sort of story am I in?” I love the way in which the question itself demonstrates that I am a character in a larger story, and not necessarily the focal point of my own book. Kilpatrick reminds us that when we lose our desires for meaning, adventure, and romance, we begin to concern ourselves more with self-esteem. It is interesting, too, that at those times when we are concerned with self-esteem, we tend to think of the story as exclusively our own…
