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Yesterday I preached a sermon in honor of my mom who died on Friday. I started talking about my mom during the final 10 minutes of the message. I titled the sermon after the final words my mom spoke to me, “See You in Heaven.” If interested, click here and give it a listen.
Below is the obituary I wrote for my mom, which appeared in The Sacramento Bee yesterday:
Joany was born 9/20/1953 in San Francisco and died 2/7/2014 in Elk Grove, CA. Joany loved Jesus, her family, her friends, and the many people she encouraged and helped as both a Marriage & Family Therapist and as co-owner of Liberty Bell Alarm Inc.
Joany lived her life to the fullest, happily pouring herself out to help others. After a 14 year battle with cancer, Joany is now at home with Jesus in heaven. She is survived by her loving husband (Ron), sons (Justin & Mark, and their wives Taylor & Jessika), six grandkids, and her sisters Lonnie & Paula. Joany’s Funeral/Celebration of Life service will be held at First Covenant Church on 2/15/14 at 2pm. 10933 Progress Ct, Rancho Cordova, CA, 95670.
I wrote this on my Facebook page earlier today:
My beautiful mom died this morning. I am going to miss her so much! She’s been the most influential person in my life. What I feel most right now is gratitude. For 35 years I’ve enjoyed the love, encouragement, pursuit, nurture, and care of a very rare mom. My mom made a huge impact with her life. She lived her life to the fullest. I’m excited that she’s now cancer/pain free, at home with Jesus. I loved my mom’s final words to me: “See you in heaven.” Man, those words pump me up! Jesus changes everything, he knocks the sting out of death.
This is a photo of our family taken on my mom’s 60th birthday, just 4 months ago. I’ll post funeral details later… Please pray for me, for my 3 sons as they process this news, my brother, and above all for my dad who has just said goodbye to his bride of 36 years.
It’s been a while since I’ve written an update about Garden City. Things are exciting around here. God is on the move, growing and using our church. Here are a few updates:
-Garden City is now 2 years and 4 months old! It’s thrilling to watch how God has grown us from a handful of people to who we are today. When we started this church with three people and $3,000 I never imagined we’d be at the stage we are at right now. God’s hand has been on us.
-This Sunday we launch a second service. You can now gather with Garden City on Sundays at either 4pm or 5:30pm (note: right now Kids’ Ministry is available only at the 4pm service).
-We’ve made three big hires: An Executive Pastor, Family Pastor, and City Coordinator. Click here to check out our growing staff team.
-We continue to give 10% of every dollar we receive to church planting, both in the Bay Area and internationally. Right now our international partners are Redeemer Dubai and Igreja do Redentor in Rio de Janerio/Restore Brazil.
-We now have 20 Neighborhood Groups spread throughout Silicon Valley.
-Lives are being saved and forever changed here. Disciples are being made. Leaders are being trained and deployed.
-According to new Barna research, our church is located in one of the least Bible minded cities in America. We have exciting work to do here.
-In Garden City people are discovering good news to enjoy, a family to belong to, and a mission to live. We’re also having a lot of fun along the way.
Thank you for how you’ve prayed for Garden City in the past. Please pray for us now as we navigate and steward this exciting season of growth.
I posted this on my Facebook page yesterday, figured I’d also post it here:
My beautiful mom is getting dramatically weaker as her cancer advances. This week she begins hospice care. Please pray for my mom, Joan Buzzard, as she navigates this final chapter of her life on this side of the grave. Please pray for my dad as he serves and says goodbye to his wife of 36 years. Pray for my brother, Mark, and me as we say goodbye to our amazing mom, and as we help our kids say goodbye to their grandma. This is the strange gift of this cancer, you have time to say goodbye.
I am sad, yet so excited for my mom to be with Jesus, her first and greatest love. She has a bright future. I’m excited to join her one day in a land where: “He [God] will wipe away every tear from their eyes, and death shall be no more, neither shall there be mourning, nor crying, nor pain anymore, for the former things have passed away.” My moms life on earth is ending. Her eternal life is just beginning. Anyone can get in on this. All you need is need–to recognize you need for the undeserved love of Jesus. Heaven is about to get more awesome because Joan Buzzard is headed there.
Photo: My mom, my younger brother, and me 20+ years ago.
Christ of the Abyss is a bronze statue of Jesus placed in 1954 at the bottom of the sea off the coast of Italy. This may be my favorite piece of art depicting Jesus.
This statue reminds me that Jesus came down into the pressurized abyss of our lives, that he moved towards the deepest, darkest, neediest places. I don’t know the unique make up of your story, sin, and mess, but whatever is down there know that Jesus’ passion is to deal with your abyss. He came to know you and love you in the deep dark sea of your struggle.
What is your abyss? Jesus goes deeper. He meets you there. He loves you there. He’s with you there. He saves you there. A deep, dark abyss is no problem for Jesus.
You may or may not have a list of resolutions for the New Year. Whatever goals you’re chasing and whatever you’re facing this next year, I want to make a suggestion: simplify things this year.
Instead of trying to do a lot, what if you focused your full attention on just one exciting objective?
Here it is: Enjoy grace.
Grace is the undeserved love of God. This undeserved love is extended most climactically in the substitutionary life, death, resurrection, and ascension of Jesus, a historical reality that changes everything about your reality. And, this undeserved love comes at you every single day of your life. Everything you will enjoy in 2014 is grace, pure gift from God: the oxygen you breathe, the relationships you enjoy, the food you eat, the shelter over your head, the laughter of your children, those amazing sunsets, etc.
“What do you have that you did not receive?” -1 Corinthians 4:7. Everything you have you have received. All is gift. All is grace. The screen you’re reading this on is a gift, as are the fingers you’re using to scroll through this post. Enjoy this grace, this great gift of having fingers, exploring screens, and learning.
Enjoy grace! Focus your full attention and energies here, and everything else will follow: love for God, gratitude, joy, love for others, and good stewardship of the life, talents, resources, time, and opportunities God has given you. Nothing sucks the life out of things like entitlement, thinking you deserve a certain kind of life. And nothing gives life like grace, recognizing that your life and everything about your life is pure gift.
Though it feels like you’re sitting still right now, you’re sitting on a planet that’s hurling through space at roughly 2.7 million miles per hour. This wild orbit and the wild adventure of your life is sustained and empowered by the grace of God, undeserved love that holds the galaxies in place, feeds you breakfast, and puts a fresh fire in your heart.
Happy New Year!
Here is my Best Books of 2013 list, in no particular order. This isn’t a list of books published in 2013. This list is of the books I read in 2013 that I enjoyed/benefited from the most. See last year’s list: Best Books of 2012 (and links to past year’s lists).
The Power of Full Engagement by Jim Loehr and Tony Schwartz. This book changed how I approach my week, as a “sprinter” instead of a “marathoner.” Very helpful. I had my whole staff read it.
Resolving Everyday Conflict by Ken Sande and Kevin Johnson. I don’t think this book is even 100 pages, but it’s loaded with simple, biblical wisdom. It’s one of five books we encourage every member of our church to read.
Pilgrim’s Wilderness: A True Story of Faith and Madness on the Alaska Frontier by Tom Kizzia. I found this book fascinating because my wife and I briefly met this family during a road trip to McCarty, Alaska nine years ago. When we met them something seemed really “off.”
Buffett: The Making of An American Capitalist by Roger Lowenstein. Fascinating biography full of leadership (and investing) wisdom.
The Pastor’s Justification by Jared Wilson. The truths in this book are the truths that should be singing in every pastor’s heart. If I had to pick one book on pastoral ministry for every pastor to read it would probably be this one.
Conquistador: Hernan Cortez, King Montezuma, and the Last Stand of the Aztecs by Buddy Levy. Incredible writing. Captivating history/story. Full of hidden and not so hidden leadership lessons.
Walking with God through Pain and Suffering by Tim Keller. My mom is dying of cancer right now. This book is helping me. I haven’t finished it yet. I’m reading it slowly.
The Gone Fishin’ Portfolio by Alexander Green. If you had to read only one book on investing (you should read several), this is your book. I don’t follow this model completely, but I mostly follow it.
The Freedom of a Christian by Martin Luther. This book re-woke me to the wonder of the gospel.
Antifragile: Things That Gain From Disorder by Nassim Nicholas Taleb. This book is really strange and really good. I like how Taleb stretches how I think.
One Way Love by Tullian Txlkjdaoiuoijalkjoiunluijnoain. I was so hungry to read a fresh treatment of the grace of God that I asked my friend Tullian to email me the unedited version of this book this summer so I could read it months before it was published. My wife and I both devoured the book in several days. Tullian, sorry, I couldn’t resist the opportunity to make fun of your last name.
Jack: Straight From the Gut by Jack Welch and David Byrne. I loved reading about how the culture of an organization can change through determined, wise leadership. Don’t read this book for tips on how to have a good marriage. Welch was a good businessman, but not a good husband.
Daily Rituals: How Artists Work by Mason Currey. I love learning what other people do to spark creativity and productivity. Everybody is so different.
Sticky Teams by Larry Osborne. Every leader I talk to who has read this book agrees: the wisdom here is golden. One of our elders quotes from this book so often we now make fun of him for it.
Crazy Busy by Kevin DeYoung. Short, spot-on, practical, actionable. We bought copies of this book for all of the deacons in our church.
The One Thing by Gary Keller and Jay Papsan. Read this book along with The Power of Full Engagement and Crazy Busy and you’ll have plenty of 1) reasons to see why your schedule is out of whack and 2) plenty of help for re-prioritizing how you manage your priorities and time.
Each year’s end brings with it a bevy of lists–best albums, best films, best books, etc. Some quickly dismiss such lists; some eagerly await their release. I’m part of the latter group. I find that year-end lists help me to move outside of my typical cultural sphere, challenging me to enjoy and find merit in things that I might have otherwise overlooked.
Among those who compile lists of the year’s best Christian books, there is perhaps none more respected or frequently referenced than Christianity Today. This year’s Christianity Today Book Awards features a number of great volumes that are worth your consideration, but for our purposes today, we are excited to announce that Stephen Um and Justin Buzzard’s Why Cities Matter has received the “Award of Merit” under the category of “Christianity and Culture.”
Here’s what Gene Edward Veith has to say about the book:
“The Bible says a great deal about cities, from Babel to Babylon, from Jerusalem to the New Jerusalem. Christianity spread in cities, and the early church was an urban phenomenon, as was the Protestant Reformation. More recently, we’ve tended toward a rural, small-town, or suburban emphasis. But the cultural significance of cities is increasing. This book shows how to proclaim the gospel in today’s cities. The authors combine sociological research and biblical insight to create promising new paradigms for ministry.”
Congratulations to Stephen, Justin, and all the other award winners. I’ve certainly got a number of new volumes to add to my reading queue.
Beware of the illusion of “arrival.”
It’s common to think that once you cross “that” item off of your to-do list, solve that big problem, achieve that goal, make that change, or move to that new place, that then you will finally arrive. But, life doesn’t work that way.
The false belief is that a new accomplishment, experience, circumstance, or location will give you rest and security that your life currently lacks.
Nope. There’s always something. This side of the grave there will always be unmet goals, suffering, new problems to solve, and grass that looks greener. Arrival is an illusion.
Arrival (being home) will come when we meet Jesus face to face. Until then, the trick is to learn how to rest in God’s grace and care while getting used to (and thriving in) the ever-changing, challenging, never-arriving adventure called life.
Are you tired? I am. I’m exhausted. I’m exhausted from life and leadership. November and May seem to always be the times of year where I’m the most worn out.
I don’t know about you, but I tend to make things complicated when I’m exhausted. I over-think things. I try to solve everything. I try to fix everything. I work harder. But that’s not a wise way to handle exhaustion.
Instead, there is one smart thing to do when you’re exhausted: rest.
That’s it. It’s that simple.
Get some rest. Get a good night sleep. Sabbath. Don’t be responsible for a day or two. Recharge. Do things that you love to do. Exercise. Do whatever would be most restful for your soul and body.
Rest conquers exhaustion. Nothing else will work. Go get some rest.