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I have a number of questions I like to regularly ask myself. These questions keep me focused on what is most important. One of the questions I regularly ask myself is, “What am I doing now (or not doing now) that I would regret in the future?”
This question makes me look at my life with a bigger-picture perspective. This question gives me a higher-up vantage point on how I’m currently investing my energy, the problems that are currently stressing me out, and the dreams that are currently exciting my heart. This question/vantage point brings me quick clarity. Exploring the regret question sharpens what is most important to me, showing me what adjustments and decisions I need to make–and what prayers I need to pray. This question has immensely helped my life, my marriage, my parenting, and my leadership.
It can help to attach a time frame to the end of the question: “What am I doing now (or not doing now) that I would regret in 2 weeks/4 months/1 year/5 years/20 years/etc?
I encourage you to ask yourself this question regularly. What are you doing now (or not doing now) that you would regret in the future? It could be a wise use of your time this week to take 20-30 minutes with pen and paper to wrestle with this question.
Sometimes I forget important stuff. So, a while ago I tattooed a reminder on my right wrist.
“Tetelestai.” This Greek word is one of the final words Jesus spoke from the cross. We translate this word in English as “It is finished.” This word changed my life.
I’m an achiever. I like to get things done. I need the daily reminder that my identity comes not from what I do, but from what Jesus had done for me. This word/work of Jesus is a constant reminder of who I am: I am an unfinished man with an unfinished life resting in the finished work of Jesus.
Above the word sits an anchor/cross (or you could say, an anchor-cross). Some of the early Christians, while undergoing persecution, disguised the cross as an anchor. The anchor is a symbol of strength (and is used as powerful imagery in Hebrews 6:9) and the cross is a symbol of the center of the Christian faith. My wrist is a reminder that my life is anchored in the finished work of Jesus.
I think one of the most powerful questions you can ask someone is, simply: “How are you?”
Ask this question to a friend, neighbor, co-worker, or stranger. Then, listen. Really listen. Most people would love to have a safe and caring person/place/community where they can share how they’re really doing. Most people rarely get to share what’s really going on because 1) they’re rarely asked and/or 2) most people don’t listen, but instead simply take turns waiting to talk.
Good listening is a byproduct of understanding grace and how the human heart works. As I’ve written before: grace creates safety (which includes an environment of listening), which creates change.
How are you? It’s a great question be asked, and it’s a great question to ask.
Yesterday Garden City Church turned three years old! Three years ago a handful of us started this church with a dream to engage Silicon Valley with the good news of Jesus in a fresh way. You can click here for more of the story of how we got started. We are amazed and grateful over how God is building our church. The picture above shows part of our gathering yesterday.
In contrast, this is a picture of our first core group meeting. What you’ll notice is a lot of empty seats. Starting a church is far from easy.
Our favorite thing to celebrate at Garden City is baptisms, when people go public with their faith in Jesus. Yesterday we celebrated a lot of baptisms–our most ever in a single day.
The baptisms included two dads who baptized their oldest kids. Here, Garden City elder, Matt Lyon, hugs his son George after baptizing him.
Garden City people like to have fun. Here some people from one of our Neighborhood Groups (the family rooms & front lines of our church) strike a pose at the photo booth we set up at yesterday’s party.
One of our downtown San Jose Neighborhood Groups having some fun.
The fun included free food for everybody, good music, and face painting for the kids.
This is Barry. We love Barry. Barry is constantly encouraging people, praying for people, and cracking jokes.
My wife and I had the joy of baptizing Michele, our friend and our son’s Kindergarten teacher.
This is Michele’s story. We showed this video yesterday and the congregation cheered and clapped at the end.
We have a lot of kids and babies in our church family. Right now the average might be that a new baby is born here every two or three weeks.
Yesterday’s service included a powerful spoken word by our Family Pastor, Steve Patton, accompanied by the Garden City band playing, “Redeemed to Redeem.” The church went crazy over this. We hope to have a full video later, for now click here to catch a few seconds of it.
This is the Garden City staff. I love, love, love the team we’ve assembled here. Each member of this team has a big heart for loving people and has unique leadership abilities that complement the team. It feels great to be part of a great team. From left to right: Chad (Intern), Colin (Worship Leader), Nick (Executive Pastor), Noemma (City Coordinator), Ronnie (Communication Coordinator), Steve (Family Pastor), and me.
Yesterday I preached an important message, Give Your Church To Your City. We’re excited to grow as a church in both declaring and demonstrating the gospel of Jesus to our city.
Yesterday we passed out stickers with the Garden City logo. Our goal with these stickers is to stir up curiosity, for people ask about these stickers and to get a chance to tell people about Jesus and our church family. When you see one of these stickers around the city, post it on twitter/Facebook/Instagram/etc. with the hashtag #GardenCity.
My middle son put his sticker on his Kindergarten folder.
I love my church. I love this adventure we are on together. Thank you to those of you who have been praying for Garden City for three years now. Keep doing it. And, if you know of someone looking for a church in Silicon Valley, you can send them to other great churches in our city or you can send them our way. Send them to one of our Sunday gatherings, at 4pm or 5:30pm. We’re excited to watch Jesus keep building our church and keep building all of his churches in the Bay Area.
In yesterday’s sermon, The Kiss of God, I announced the re-wording of Garden City Church’s mission statement. As you’ll see below, the mission of our church hasn’t changed and it will never change. But, for some important reasons we changed how we word our mission statement. If your church or organization has been around for a couple of years, then you have more wisdom under your belt from when you first started your organization and re-articulating your mission might be a healthy move.
Below is an email I sent to all of the deacons of our church last week, explaining to them ahead of time this change we announced on Sunday.
For quite a while now I’ve been thinking and praying about how it might be wise to change the wording of our mission statement. That turned into exploring and praying about this as elders, and asking the staff to explore this with us and give their input. It was a fruitful process that led us to an exciting decision.
Towards the end of my sermon this Sunday I’ll be announcing a re-wording of our mission statement. Note: this is NOT a change in our mission—our mission still is and always will be to make disciples (Matthew 28). This is re-wording how exactly we articulate our mission, wording that we think is healthier for shaping the culture of our church.
Our old mission statement: Making disciples to impact the city for Jesus. (8 words)
Our new mission statement: Disciples Making Disciples. Enjoying Jesus And Loving People. (3 words + 5 words = 8 words)
Why the change in wording? For one main reason: a desire to put grace/identity in the forefront of people’s minds and hearts. Though “Gospel” is our #1 core value and we constantly preach grace, we realized that after nearly 3 years of also constantly stating our mission people were mainly just hearing our mission as work that they need to do (“Oh yeah, I better get busy and make disciples to impact the city for Jesus”) rather than as a response to God’s grace.
We wanted to re-word our mission in such a way that would be more life-giving, theologically accurate, and effective. Our new mission wording is comprised of two sentences:
Sentence 1: Disciples Making Disciples. This is the most concise and memorable way to sum up our mission, which is why it appears in bigger font. The first word, “Disciples,” reminds our people of their identity first: that they are disciples of Jesus, people known and loved by God. In our preaching and other mediums of communication we will regularly unpack the rich identity and grace loaded in the word “disciples.” What is Garden City all about? Disciples Making Disciples!
Sentence 2: Enjoying Jesus And Loving People. This second sentence is a way to further unpack our mission, a subtitle of sorts. The first verb/call to action is a call to enjoy the love and grace of Jesus. The second verb is a call to love people, as knowing and loving people is central to how we make disciples in our city. It’s really the 2 great commandments: 1) To love God with all your heart (which starts with knowing that he first loved us through his Son) 2) Love your neighbor.
What is our hope in making this change? Our hope is that this change in wording makes for a healthier church, that it reminds people of their grace-based identity first and then their mission second. Words matter, and we think this re-wording will be important in shaping the culture of our church family. We will still talk all the time about out city and wanting to impact it (and our old 8 words will still hang on the blue banner in the lobby and in a few places in our documents), but this new wording will be the primary way we articulate who we are and what we do.
We think that as we enjoy Jesus and make disciples/love people, that we’ll make a great impact in our city.
Please keep this information confidential until Sunday. After my sermon on Sunday these changes immediately go live on our website, Membership Handbook, etc. If you have any questions, ask me, Matt, or feel free to ask a staff member. Thank you! NOTE: After Sunday feel free to use/forward this email to your Neighborhood Group to help explain this change to your people.
We’ve all experienced (and contributed to) this dynamic: You are afraid to share what you’re really thinking and what’s really going on in your life with your spouse/friend/parent/church leader because you fear they will use this information against you. You’re afraid that sharing reality will result in being challenged, fixed, or judged, instead of being known, understood, and loved. This dynamic creates unhealthy cultures in marriages, friendships, churches, and workplaces–people never share what’s really going on because they’re afraid, and this stunts both intimacy and growth.
Fortunately, this unhealthy dynamic can be replaced with a healthy dynamic: grace. Grace is God’s undeserved love. When an individual embraces a grace-based identity (instead of a performance-based identity) and standing with God, he or she becomes capable of extending grace (undeserved love) to other people. This individual becomes secure, and safe. This individual now has the ability to truly listen to what another person is really thinking, to what is really going on, without attempting to immediately use that information against the person.
See, grace creates safety. Grace creates a culture of safety where people can face and talk about reality. And, lest any of you think I’m being soft on sin, change, or sanctification, the crazy truth is that this grace-soaked culture of safety is what finally results in people changing.
Think about it. Environments and relationships that approximate unconditional love are what resulted in true, deep change and healing in your own life. When you experienced grace and felt safe, you finally opened up. And then you finally began to get help where you most needed it.
Grace creates safety, which creates change.
How can you be such a person to others? How can you use your leadership to create such environments?
“‘I will place him in the safety for which he longs.’”-Psalm 12:5
My life is like yours: busy.
As a husband, dad to three wild boys, and pastor of a growing church in fast-paced Silicon Valley, I deal with the ever present temptation to not be fully present in the moment. The demands, stress, and surprises of each day tempt me to withhold my full presence and attention, to abandon focus.
This temptation is a lie. Abandoning focus and presence does not equate to a greater ability to handle everything that comes at you. Instead, failure to be fully present results in ineffective leadership, people not feeling cared for, and a loss of personal joy.
Many of us feel ever-present low grade stress and lack joy in large part because we’re rarely fully present. We try to be three places at once and do four things at once. This is dumb. I don’t want to live this way. We are not designed to live this way.
Obviously the first step in solving this problem is to refocus: to reassess the priorities we want to give our time and energy to. I take extended time both annually and quarterly to reassess my chief priorities and goals. Another critical and often over-looked need is to commit to being fully present with/fully focused upon the person or task we’re currently engaged with.
The happiest, most loving, and most effective leaders learn to be fully present. You can learn this to. Instead of each day feeling like an endless, grueling marathon, each day can feel like a series of varied, interesting, and challenging sprints where your focus and full presence shifts throughout the day to the project or person of the moment.
Here’s one example of how I practice being present: My days are often packed with meetings and projects. It’s common for me to leave behind an unfinished task, rush into a meeting at a coffee shop, and to have the person I’m meeting say to me, “You seem really busy. You have a lot going on.” My standard reply is to say, “Yes, I’m very busy. But for the next forty minutes you have my complete attention and focus. I’m here to listen and to help you in any way I can. Tell me, what’s going on?” The person then notices my full eye contact and attention, and begins to talk. I determine to be nowhere else but present in that coffee job, enjoying this unique moment in time that I will never get back. And, then, when the meeting is over, I turn my attention to my next project or meeting feeling refreshed and recharged, eager to give my full energy to what’s next.
The ambitious missionary, Jim Elliot, said it best: “Wherever you are, be all there! Live to the hilt every situation you believe to be the will of God.”
You can do this. You were created to live and lead with full presence. Where are you? Wherever you are, be all there!
As I read the Gospels it seems that there are two secrets to the effectiveness of Jesus’ ministry that are often overlooked or forgotten:
1. Jesus spent a lot of time enjoying long meals and attending fun parties with people.
Maybe you should enjoy longer meals with friends and attend (or throw) more parties?
2. Jesus spent a lot of time going on long walks and wild adventures with his disciples.
Maybe your discipleship process ought to involve more long walks and unpredictable adventures?
I’ve been using Twitter for a few years. I like Twitter. This is a description of how I use it. Perhaps this will be helpful to you.
1. Follow people/accounts you can learn from.
Follow people who teach you, inspire you, challenge you, or encourage you. Some people follow hundreds or thousands of people on Twitter. I don’t. I never follow more than about 50 people because I want to try to keep up with a lot of what these people are saying. I often change some of the accounts I’m following in search of learning from new voices.
2. Tweet about two things: 1) Content you think will help other people 2) Whatever you’re excited about.
That’s it. That’s what I do.
Garden City Church is now 2.5 years old! Yesterday we celebrated Easter together as a church family. Here are a few photos and stories from the day.
Yesterday was our biggest Sunday yet at Garden City as people packed into both our 4pm and 5:30pm services to hear the good news of Jesus.
We celebrated 8 baptisms yesterday as a diverse group of people went public with their faith in Jesus. Their stories were moving and inspiring!
Among the baptisms, we had 2 husbands who baptized their wives and we had 2 sons who baptized a parent. In this picture Sameer is hugging his mom, Tarana, who he just baptized. Sameer became a follower of Jesus through Garden City and then helped lead his mom to become a follower of Jesus.
I preached about how The Real Jesus (click to listen) turns your life upside down. I also wore and introduced our new Garden City T-shirt (this is the first time we’ve made something like this). Everyone who registers and shows up to serve at our city service project this Saturday will get a free Garden City T-shirt.
Here you can see some of the Garden City kids sitting on the lawn. Yesterday 50 kids enjoyed an egg hunt on the lawn and were then taught about the resurrection of Jesus. Garden City kids are making (we think and hope) lifelong discoveries and friends in our church family.
Garden City is a friendly, growing family of people who are learning to follow Jesus together.
You are invited and welcome to join us. We’d love to have you become part of this family, and join us in our mission to impact our city. You can come to one of our 20 Neighborhood Groups this week and/or come to our 4pm or 5:30pm service this Sunday.